Change Your Inner Voice: Change Your Outer World.

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Change Your Inner Voice: Change Your Outer World.


What's up, Stonedvet Army?

This week I'm sharing some more awesome training I've received with you.

Today, we're talking about what Tony Robbins calls Transformational Vocabulary, or TV for short. 

Listen, I'm not sure if you know this, but what you say to yourself is more important than what you say to others.

Bruce Lee TV inner self talk

Managing your mind starts with your body, your focus, and your language.

Learning to manage your own emotions and inner talk (TV) allows you to manage your mind. 

Think about this, the words we use represent the world in our heads. Whether it's words or a metaphor, our brains start to feel like it's true. 

For example, if someone were to say to themselves that they're worthless. What do you think that will do to the way they perceive the world?

When shit happens to us in life, the first thing that controls us is typically how we're already feeling.

Whatever you focus on, you're going to feel.

So, focus on what's wrong. Shit's going to be wrong because whatever you're looking for is always available if you're looking for it.

So, the key becomes controlling what you focus on. 

Know that whatever you're focused on is controlling the way you interact with the world.

Because, as soon as you focus on something, you must decide what it means? 

Tony Robbins uses the example, "Is this the end of the beginning?"

he continues, "If you think it's the end of your career, the end of a relationship versus the beginning of your career, beginning of your relationship, you're gonna have a completely different mindset, different emotions, and from those emotions, you're going to act very differently."

Think about it if you believe it's the end of a relationship. Are you going to act the same way as you did in the beginning? 

In our minds, we create a word or a set of words that describe what it meant to us, and those words can amplify the way we feel. 

That would have been valuable to have learned earlier in life.

Our words create meanings.

The meanings create emotions. 

Emotions control our decision-making. 

The decisions and actions we choose create all the results we get in our life.

We have habitual words that we use when shit goes sideways.

If you're not aware of them, you're probably doing things that let emotions get in the way.

Words are so powerful!

Look at Winston Churchill; in the most demanding time when England was being bombed, when it looked like they could lose the war, it was said that Churchill sent the English language into battle. 

He inspired people. 

"We shall go on to the end, we shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our island, whatever the cost may be. We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender, and even if, which I do not for a moment believe, this island or a large part of it were subjugated and starving, then our Empire beyond the seas, armed and guarded by the British fleet, would carry on the struggle, until, in God's good time, the New World, with all its power and might, steps forth to the rescue and the liberation of the old"

He had a way of using words that lifted people.

I'm sure you are familiar with Dr. Martin Luther King's I Have a Dream speech. Dr. King delivered one of the most inspiring speeches ever done by any human in history. 

As you see, words that are used externally can influence us. 

But, the most powerful words are the words we use internally, and we have habitual words.

Begin noticing yourself using your old inner self-talk, and use some of these alternatives instead. 

Apply It: Change Your Inner Self Talk

Use the information we've discussed to start changing your inner vocabulary and improve your experiences in life. 

  1. Write down three disempowering words. 
    If you can't think of them, ask yourself what negative emotions you regularly feel. The words you frequently use to describe these emotions are likely to be disempowering.
  2. Brainstorm words to replace these disempowering words. 
    For example, replace "angry" with "upset," "failure" with "learning," and "overwhelmed" with "in demand." 
    Remember, your new words should be ones you'll want to use. 
  3. Enlist your friends and family to help you. 
    Tell them the words you want to replace and the new words you want to incorporate. When you start to express one of your old words, have them ask you whether you're feeling your old word or your new word. This will serve as a reminder to replace your old vocabulary. 

Then make a point to use the new words and metaphors at least three times over the next week and notice how you feel.

So, please take a moment and think about it. 

What are some of the metaphors that might be getting in the way of your progress?

Write down some of the words and metaphors that you use in your life.

Remember, words play a huge role in how you feel and what you do, so take this seriously.



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